Don't be afraid to go after what you want, and do not be afraid to be on your own. There are some people who are important to date even if you never end up together.Even if a guy isn't using a futon as the bearer of that bad news, it's still a sign he's probably not ready to be the type of grownup who creates a nice home for himself.The major exception is if he can't afford a bed for legitimate reasons, which is much more understandable. The sooner you realize it, the sooner you can find someone who brings more to the table than being good in bed.Some of your friends are going to get married and start having babies early. If you're not one of the first to achieve either or both of those milestones (if that's what you want), it's okay. It's better to be single than stuck with the wrong person." –Jen Stone, Facebook "Focus on yourself, your goals, and with time, the right one will come around.After all, your 20s are the perfect time for you to explore and really find yourself.As a guy in that age range, I feel like it's harder than it ever has been.I hear it gets better at 30 , which makes me wonder whether the period after college and before 30 is the worst period for a single guy looking to date.
I worked offshore for most of a couple of years, in some chemical plants for a few more years and ran my own restaurant for some time as well. That's 2x the median family income, 4x the per capita in the USA, and most places that seems to be common are places that you kinda'-sorta' scrape by with that income. Trust you me, I get approached by enough "21'ers" to testify to that.If a guy insists that every single ex of his was "crazy," aka one of those especially annoying adjectives people too often apply to women for dubious reasons, it's time to look at the common denominator: him.A friend once told me he purposefully hung onto his cruddy black futon because he figured it would broadcast the "I'm not an adult who is ready for a committed relationship" message on his behalf.Besides, what you saw as an 'ideal' partner back in college may be totally different now!" –Valeria Marquez, Facebook "Be okay with being by yourself.It is what it is, but I don't give them the time of day when they try to add me on Facebook. Too old to date 18-19 and not accomplished enough to date upperclasswomen.